Comments on: Quads

By: crystal

crystal — Sun, 21 Sep 2008 23:40:33 +0000

debbie, who is a supposed “nurse” , can barely write and seems to have the literacy level of a 8 year old or may be mentally retarded, is engaging in sexual behaviors with her patient….. wow. YOU SOUND VERY PROFESSIONAL AND INTELLIGENT!

By: lisa

lisa — Fri, 16 Mar 2007 10:48:58 +0000

can some one please write back to me about this?

By: lisa

lisa — Fri, 16 Mar 2007 10:45:29 +0000

i would like to talk about the kid i take care of that is content with his life just the way it is now, he has no ambition to change or do any thing different. should i be concerned?

By: n.

n. — Sun, 23 Jul 2006 10:49:30 +0000

don’t think quads can’t create. you have read several who write but there are also people who make art although they can’t move much of their body. a famous mouth-painter is http://www.joniandfriends.org/ and there are many others (http://www.google.com/search?q=mouth+painter). so don’t assume you couldn’t relate on the creative level. Oh yeah, another famous guy: http://www.callahanonline.com/
But many unfamous people are also creative, so maybe you will meet some.

By: Ballastexistenz

Ballastexistenz — Sun, 23 Jul 2006 09:50:21 +0000

If you’re still reading replies to this, you might find the books “Too Late to Die Young” by Harriet McBryde Johnson and “The Me in the Mirror” by Connie Panzarino interesting. Neither have an SCI (one has some kind of neuromuscular disease that I don’t remember the name of, and one has SMA) but both describe growing up as a quad in an interesting and political way.

By: Debbie

Debbie — Sat, 25 Feb 2006 16:19:10 +0000

Hi To all of you .
I have been looking after a quad since December 8th.And i have enjoyed ever so much.
He has a nurses room,but i yet to sleep in.I sleep with him ,we started to get intement on the secound day. I want to learn every thing that i can about Quads.

By: J

Wed, 27 Jul 2005 15:39:40 +0000

Good Afternoon, I am a quad of 22 years who after injury earned bachelors and masters degrees, got married, have a child, and work full-time.

Certainly to not hurt feelings or sound patronizing, but certainly a sincere

By: Rod

Rod — Tue, 12 Apr 2005 14:17:14 +0000

Hi
I’m not a book about quads, but I’m the real deal. I broke my neck in a car wreck on April 6th 1975. I just passed my 30th aniversary as a quad.
At 46 I’m still very active and alive. I find it very sad that you can’t look a quad in the eyes. Do you think we want your sympathy? We are human just like you, with have feelings just like you. I managed to except the life I faced very early on in my disability. Some never do except it, and thus live a very short misarable life. I have been very fortunate to have my family around me. I was lucky enough to also have found love we a beautiful lady. We hade several great years together. We had different ideas about what I should do career wise, so we went our different ways. She married another quad and they were very happy for the 20 years they were together, until he died.
I don’t know what to tell you that would make itmore confortable for you when dealing with a quad, other than. The best thing you can do for a quad is be their friend. Show some love and show you care. Quads can have great lives if they have friends and family who care about them and do things with them. It’s easy for quads to get around today. Equiped vans to get around in. All places of business and restarants are acommodating. Try being a friend to a quad and watch your life become more meaning and fulfilled.
And don’t be one of those tnat thinks a quads sex life is over. I know two female quads who are raising families both have had children as quads. As a male quad, I can satisfy a woman as a quad, better than most none disabled men can. With or without intercourse.
So the next time you have a quad as a patient, try warming up a bit, and let yourself get closer to that person.
Rod Taylor

By: ruth

ruth — Wed, 09 Feb 2005 23:37:45 +0000

I am a quad – and write a blog about living as a paralyzed person. Please feel free to visit my blog if you want…i have pretty good rapport with my nurses, although i can see they do get upset about the level of my paralysis. I use humor to break the tension and help folks feel more comfortable. i say bless all nurses! they’re wonderful and underappreciated.

By: brother doug

brother doug — Wed, 22 Dec 2004 21:30:49 +0000

The abuse of the staff at Oakwood nursing home, Webster Massachusetts is apparently of no concern but inconvenience only to the family and the administrator. I have made numerous complaints, in writing, and received only threats of court action for “making trouble” by reporting trouble –abuse to my relative. What’s wrong with this picture?? Surley it is obvious.